How do I talk to someone with dementia?
People with dementia will repeat things, say things that are untrue, and often their language does not make sense; it can be frustrating for their family.
Recognize that language and memory areas of the brain are significantly damaged – it is not their fault.
- When they repeat: be patient and respond again.
Redirect to a new activity or give them a task they can help with (like folding towels) - When they say things that are incorrect or untrue, don’t correct them. It is OK if they think they are younger, that their spouse is still alive, that they are taking a trip tomorrow, and so on.
- Conversation can be like improvisation; just “go with it”. You can say:
- “Really? I didn’t know that”. “That sounds fun. What do you like best about Boise?”
- “Dad called and said he is running late – he’ll be here soon”
- “That must be frustrating. I’m sorry. Can I give you a hug?”
- Conversation can be like improvisation; just “go with it”. You can say:
- Keep the conversation light, respond to their emotions, and smile and use humor when you can.
